less) intelligence than themselves." In other words, men look for partners with qualities they value, and therefore think superior intelligence is a great quality in a partner. Here's the rub: Once the women became "psychologically near" the man (i.e., he thought about actually interacting with her and dating her in real life), "men showed less attraction toward women who outsmarted them." Really, guys?
The men first heard hypothetical scenarios about women who performed either better or worse in a math or English course than they did.
Some may protest the use of stereotypes, but there is often enough truth in them to lightheartedly convey valuable insights.
• The terms “attractive” and “beautiful” refer to cultural and media standards, not to a woman’s inner beauty.
After all, women are encouraged to be assertive, accomplished and independent; being told that they’re “intimidating” sounds like they’re being told to take all of that back and pretend to be something less than what they are. Are geek guys finding a woman’s accomplishments to be somehow threatening? Because “intimidating” is so subject to personal interpretation, I thought it was best to go to the source: geek guys. And don’t get me wrong, this isn’t someone looking for geeky attention or a propped up fantasy. But “intimidating” is almost uselessly vague, especially if they keeps coming up; it covers a multitude of meanings to the point that it means everything and nothing at once. She has a job she loves that pays good money, money that she likes to spend on her geeky hobbies and toys. – she hears the same thing over and over again: “You’re too intimidating…” Does this sound familiar to you? In fact, going by the number of emails I get from my readers, it’s most common issue that geek (or geek-curious) women encounter when they’re interested in dating.When there was "psychological distance" from the women (e.g.the men were just fantasizing about a theoretical woman who wasn't a real-life romantic prospect), "Men showed greater attraction toward women who displayed more (vs.I conducted an informal (and utterly unscientific) poll on the Dr.